Friday Coffee and Chat -- 5th December 2025

Thank you @Shaz51 for the inclusion and check-in. Today I am doing better than expected 💚

ohh that is wonderful @TeaPositive , i have a smile on my face hearing this my friend

any plans for today and the weekend 

@Shaz51 Happy Friday Shaz and others. 

It's been a hard hard week for me. Lots of tears. So many tears. Tearing up just thinking about it. I think I am going to let the tap flow another week at least. 

Question for all...do you find tears actually help? At what point are they supposed to stop? I know the hormones and the stress and the disappointments continue to roll but I think I'm in a deep hole. The toolbox is activated, exercise, movies, sunlight, food, talking, even cracked out the watercolours. Basically anything except study and my assignment. 

Today I am 40/60 push on/quit uni. 

Questioning how much longer I can put my life on hold. It's caught up with me how much time I've wasted doing study that I don't believe will help me. Here I am again feeling railroaded into a career I don't want. 

It's certainly not going to give me the leg up getting a decent job again. I need skills. I need experience. I need connections. 

Ok...coffee refill. 

How's your life going?

@Shaz51 I am incredibly thankful for the support I received over the weeks here on the SANE forums. Today I took a day off, might be taking a small outing with my partner who's been discharged from hospital now. Just trying to take one day at a time and really bask in him being here.

hello @Messylife , sending you lots of tender hugs my friend and sitting with you 

I will have another coffee with you 

Question for all...do you find tears actually help? At what point are they supposed to stop? -- these are very good questions 

@TeaPositive , @Ru-bee , @AuntGlow , @rav3n , @Jynx , @tyme 

Today is good; I am so blessed to have the flexibility to work from home.  Just makes the responsibilities as a carer so much easier.   The crisis seems to have passed, which is a relief.  

Thanks for coffee and chat.

hugs @Ramman , @Messylife , @TeaPositive 😍

a little tip @Ramman  to put a @ in front of members names so they can receive your message and reply back to you 

yes I agree working from home does have its benefits

any plans for the weekend @Ramman , @Messylife , @TeaPositive 

our town has a Christmas night tonight downtown but we wont be going as my husband does not loud events 

MIL birthday lunch tomorrow and she will be 91 

Don't have anyone to go with @Messylife but feeling very tired today , did not get much sleep  so will see what happens 

Enjoy your walk and speak to you soon 😊

Hey @Messylife lovely to meet you and read your post from today's Coffee and Chat. Last week I had tears for five days heavily - reads like a weather forecast 🤣 and then after some other things shifted a little I found it was only a few "showers" and a drop or two. I found the tears were needed for me, there was pent up emotion that needed release. 

As for where my partner and I went - to the local pool for a tiny paddle, homemade sandwiches and tossing of a ball. It was a simple outing, the first since my partner's discharge from hospital, and a good way to test energy levels and remind us both that we are trying to support one another.

@Shaz51 how lovely to hear your town has a Christmas night tonight downtown. At the moment we aren't up to much as partner also struggling with too many people and things being too loud. We may instead find a park and hang up hammocks, or maybe do some watercolor for handmade Christmas cards. Hope your MIL 91st birthday lunch tomorrow is enjoyable for all 💚

@Shaz51 thanks for tag!! and great question @Messylife 😊

for me, tears do help! it might sound odd but i try to create a proper time/space to release the tears fully. i find that when i get a chance to have a proper, uninterrupted cry, i feel a lot better afterward. i do get tired though, so i try to stay hydrated and take a nap/rest up if i need to. 

do you feel better after a cry sesh?

Hello @rav3n 

Any plans for the weekend my friend 🧡 

Hi folks! 

@Shaz51 @Messylife @TeaPositive @Ramman 

@Messylife yes tears do help!! Tears of sadness have been found to reduce cortisol levels (the stress hormone) - source

So crying literally provides relief and helps return our bodies to homeostasis 😊

I'm sorry to hear things have been so hard. Hope you find a safe space/time to release some of the feelings 🤞💜

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@Shaz51 wrote:

hello @Messylife , sending you lots of tender hugs my friend and sitting with you 

I will have another coffee with you 

 

Question for all...do you find tears actually help? At what point are they supposed to stop? -- these are very good questions 

 

 

@TeaPositive , @Ru-bee , @AuntGlow , @rav3n , @Jynx , @tyme 

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Hi @Shaz51, 

Such a good question - tears really allow me to regulate and come back to a state of balance. They very much act as a tension/emotional release. What about you? 🫶

Hello @TeaPositive @Ramman @Rana8 , @Determined @wermonastring @lil_green_clock @Junee @EJ , @ks @JR489 @HappyEmu @ForestBat @Farwaa123 @Cheekychick158 @Fullofhope79 , @Healandlove @Lucky11 @Messylife